During our last support group meeting on November 12th we discussed the stresses of the holidays.  In preparation for the meeting I anticipated that shopping, decorating, cooking and time management issues would be big stresses.  But for those attending, loneliness, concern about ailing parents and  the sadness of lost traditions were prominent concerns.  These wise women had, for the most part, solved the problems of doing too much during the holidays.  They have trimmed their card and gift lists, let other family members lighten the load of entertaining and simplified decorations.   The emotional issues that come with getting older are the concerns that dim the joy known from past holiday seasons.  Below are some ideas shared among the group.

• Consider adopting new traditions which better suit family members changing interests or abilities.  New traditions can be  adapted to honor the old ones.  For example, if Grandma can no longer host the holiday then maybe some of her recipes can be prepared by younger members of the clan.
• Rather than spending money on gifts, plan a family event by going to a concert or musical to celebrate.
• Call friends or family and plan occasions ahead of time to avoid being alone.  If inviting people over and on a budget think about a dessert gathering or potluck.
• Consider volunteering to be with other people, make friends and avoid loneliness.
• Investigate community resources to assist with caring for ailing relatives.  Churches, hospitals, public health departments and private Alzheimer groups often have low cost options for respite care.

Nothing could be much more stressful during the holiday than becoming a victim of crime.   Unfortunately, during economic downturns crime increases.  Don’t  make yourself an easy target.  A member of the HFHS security staff stopped by Wednesday to share some holiday safety tips.

• Keep windows and doors locked even when you are at home.
• Do not leave gifts visible through windows.
• Be very cautious answering the door.  Criminals may pose as couriers delivering gifts or solicit for non-existing charities. Always ask for ID whenever anyone requests entry, even if dressed as utility worker or police officer.
• Shop during daylight hours or do not shop alone.
• Do not wear expensive jewelry and avoid carrying a purse.
• Do not overload yourself with packages but avoid dropping packages off at car and then return to store.  Criminals watch for this and can break into car and be off with purchases within minutes.

What stresses you out about the holidays?  What helpful tips have you acquired over the years to help ease the strain of this time of year?

written by Deborah McBain, CNM MSN